As a Little League coach, Bruce Gary would focus in on the kids who weren’t so good, so that by the end of each season the whole team was more rounded and equal. “He would help boost kids self-esteem,” wrote his daughter. A full-time dad to his three children after his divorce 10 years earlier, he had the practice. Gary, 51, a firefighter with Engine 40, had received a commendation following the 1993 WTC bombing.